Find Your Lane and Stay In It

July 31, 2024

Find Your Lane and Stay In It!

One of the hardest things to do is find your lane. In today’s world, we are bombarded with information and inspiration from all directions. With every social media post, new idea, new book, or weekly challenge, I find myself trying to mimic what I see others doing. It’s easy to see someone else's success and think, “I should do that too.” I try things that work for them and then get frustrated when they don’t work for me.


The problem is that we often forget that everyone’s journey is unique. What works for one person may not work for another because their circumstances, strengths, and passions are different. Then it clicked for me: Their lane is not my lane. I have to make my own lane and stay in it! This realization was a game-changer. It’s about understanding that your path is uniquely yours, and it’s okay if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s. Your lane is where your strengths, passions, and values align.



But once you find your lane, the second hardest thing to do is stay in it.


Staying in your lane requires constant effort and awareness. It means not getting distracted by the latest trends or what others are doing. It’s about reflection, where you regularly take time to assess if you are staying true to your goals and values. It requires setting healthy boundaries, saying no to things that don’t serve your purpose, and protecting your time and energy. Lastly, it involves constantly checking yourself and your purpose, ensuring that your actions align with your long-term goals and values.

By focusing on these principles, you can maintain your direction and move forward with confidence, knowing that you are on the right path for you.


Five Intentions for August:


  1. Reflect Daily
  2. Take time each day to think about what’s working and what’s not. This helps you stay true to yourself.
  3. Set Boundaries
  4. Learn to say no to things that don’t align with your goals. Protect your time and energy.
  5. Stay Focused
  6. Keep your eyes on your own path. Don’t get distracted by what others are doing.
  7. Embrace Your Unique Journey
  8. Celebrate your progress and trust that your path is the right one for you, even if it looks different from others.
  9. Seek Support
  10. Surround yourself with people who understand and support your goals. They can help keep you accountable.


Three Reflection Questions


1. What Are My Unique Strengths and Passions?

   - Reflect on what makes you unique. What activities or tasks make you feel energized and fulfilled? Identifying your strengths and passions can help you understand your own lane better.


2. Am I Setting Boundaries to Protect My Time and Energy?

   - Consider whether you are saying yes to things that align with your goals or if you’re getting sidetracked by others’ expectations. Are you protecting your time and energy effectively?


3. How Often Do I Reflect on My Goals and Progress?

   - Think about how regularly you take the time to reflect on your progress and whether you are staying true to your path. Are you making adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your long-term goals and values?


Call to Action:


Take a moment today to identify your lane. Write down what makes you unique and what you want to focus on. Commit to staying in your lane this month and share your journey with us using the hashtag #MyOwnLane. Let’s inspire each other to stay true to ourselves and our unique paths.


Until we meet again: Be a Leader. Be a Learner. Be Kind.


Dr. Roy Bishop, Jr.


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