“Be Kind to Yourself: 5 Battles You’re Not Giving Yourself Credit For”

1 Truth · 2 Strategies · 1 Reflection Somewhere along the way, I started confusing being busy with being effective. I’ve always been told that working longer hours and sacrificing rest somehow proves our dedication. But being exhausted isn’t a sign that you’re doing great work. It’s a sign that you’re doing too much of the wrong work (there is such a thing), the kind that drains your purpose instead of fueling it. As educational leaders, we pour into everyone else, students, staff, and families and often forget to pour back into ourselves. Leadership isn’t about doing it all. It’s about doing what matters most, with energy, clarity, and intention. You can’t lead effectively if you’re constantly running on fumes (I have never seen this done well). 1 Truth You’re not tired because you’re weak. You’re tired because you’re operating without renewal. When you ignore rest, reflection, and boundaries, you trade long-term effectiveness for short-term validation. Exhaustion might look like dedication, but it’s really depletion. Strong leaders understand that protecting their energy isn’t selfish, it’s smart. The best version of you isn’t the busiest one. It’s the one that’s focused, fueled, and fully present for your team, your students, and yourself (we often forget about ourselves in the equation). 2 Strategies to Live It Out 1. Audit Your Energy Before the week gets away from you, take a few minutes to ask yourself: What gives me energy? What drains it? Then make one small adjustment. Maybe it’s saying no to an extra meeting, taking a short walk instead of scrolling your phone, or turning off notifications after hours. Awareness creates alignment, and alignment builds sustainability. 2. Rest Without Guilt Rest is not a reward for getting everything done. It’s a requirement for showing up as your best self. Schedule your recovery time like any other meeting (seriously, put it on your calendar now or it won’t happen). Sleep, quiet reflection, and personal time don’t make you soft. They make you last. The leaders who thrive long-term are the ones who protect their peace and model balance for others (I used to be really bad at this). 1 Reflection Question What is one responsibility or mindset I’ve been holding onto that no longer deserves my energy? Take Action Take ten minutes today to define your energy boundaries. Write down three things that drain you and three things that refuel you. Keep that list somewhere visible. Every time you start to feel overwhelmed, go back to it. Your energy is your leadership advantage so protect it. Final Word Exhaustion is not a requirement of leadership; it’s a signal that something needs to change. You don’t have to prove your worth by overworking yourself. You prove it by showing up whole, grounded, and consistent. When you protect your peace, you amplify your presence. When you slow down, you gain clarity. When you take care of yourself, you give everyone around you permission to do the same. Until next time, Be a Leader. Be a Learner. Be Kind. Let’s keep leading together. Dr. Roy Bishop, Jr. Founder of The Be Team — helping educational leaders lead with purpose, balance, and mindset. I help leaders and future leaders from the classroom to the boardroom, build confidence, protect their peace, and grow into the best version of themselves by learning to grow through the seasons of feeling stuck, burnt out, or overlooked. It happens to all of us at some point, so why not prepare for it? Because leadership isn’t about titles; it’s about becoming. And I believe that everyone, no matter their age or experience, deserves the chance to be the leader they were meant to be.