Be Concerned with What You Can Control

March 18, 2024

Be Concerned with what you can control!

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ONE THOUGHT...

Focusing on What You Can Control to Increase Your Happiness


In both our personal and professional lives, the pursuit of happiness can feel like a never-ending journey. As educational leaders, this challenge is even greater as we strive to inspire and uplift those around us. However, the key to unlocking a deeper sense of happiness lies in understanding and embracing the power of focusing on what we can control.


The Illusion of Control


Life presents us with challenges, from unexpected changes in curriculum to shifts in educational policies, and even personal hurdles we encounter. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and disheartened by the unpredictability surrounding us. However, the first step towards happiness is recognizing the illusion of control we often cling to. As leaders, we must distinguish between what we can influence and what lies beyond our reach.


3 Tips for Focusing on What You Can Control


Identify Your Circle of Influence:
Begin by listing the aspects of your professional and personal life that you can directly impact. These include your teaching methods, how you interact with your colleagues and students, and the attitude you bring to your work. Focusing your energy on these aspects yields more meaningful and satisfying results.


Set Clear, Achievable Goals:
Break down your broader objectives into specific, manageable goals. Instead of aspiring to "improve school culture," aim to "implement a monthly team-building activity for staff." This approach not only makes your goals more attainable but also gives you a clear direction for your efforts.


Practice Gratitude and Mindfulness:
Regularly acknowledging what you're thankful for can shift your focus from what's lacking to what's abundant in your life. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or simply being present, can help you appreciate the current moment, reducing anxiety about the future and regrets over the past.


TWO QUOTES…

To further inspire you to focus on what you can control, consider these words of wisdom:


Stephen R. Covey: "I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions."


Epictetus: "We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them."


These quotes remind us that our power lies in our responses and decisions, not in the external events or circumstances that we often cannot change.


ONE QUESTION…

As you ponder the shift towards focusing on what you can control, ask yourself:


What are three things within my control that I can act upon today to make a positive impact on my happiness and that of those around me?


In closing, by concentrating on what we can control, we empower ourselves to make meaningful changes in our lives and in the lives of those around us. This approach not only increases our happiness but also sets a powerful example for our colleagues and students. Remember, happiness is not just a destination but a journey, and it starts with recognizing and acting upon the areas within our control.


Let's build the life you want together! We want you to be the best version of yourself! We are here to help! 

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